What’s YOUR Story?
I was in college
when it happened. We were not in a serious relationship but I cared for her.
One day she
called me. There was something different in her voice, and I immediately grew
concerned. Then she said something I will never forget: “I’m pregnant and I’m
taking care of it.” She shut me down. No
discussion. No welcomed input in the decision-making process. No thought to
what I might want to do. It boiled down to my having no choice. I think that’s
what bothered me the most.
I struggled for
years afterward. That day haunted me. I can remember just giving up — not
caring about things like I used to. I became numb in so many ways. Drugs and
alcohol became an escape and pornography an outlet. I just didn’t care anymore.
I hurt inside and out, and I didn’t know what to do about the pain I was
carrying inside me.
Then I found
healing through PSC’s STRONGG For Men. After all of these years, I feel like
the man God has always created me to be — and I’m finally at peace. What's YOUR Story?
Maybe you can relate to the above story. The first step in healing may be in identifying your initial role in the abortion:
- Perhaps you knew, but expressed no opinion – going along with whatever she decided.
- Did you oppose the abortion, but it happened anyway?
- Do you regret having insisted on the abortion?
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Perhaps you were not the father of the child, but paid for the abortion.
Whatever role you played in an abortion decision, there is forgiveness and restoration.
FACT: Abortion
does have a devastating impact on men.
Some of the post-abortion symptoms that may effect men include:
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Inability to be intimateLoss of fatherhood
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Failed relationships
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Worry over manhood
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Sense of helplessness
- Sexual dysfunction
- Addictions
- Unresolved grief
- Anger/rage
- Spousal abuse
- Inability to bond with living children
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Powerlessness
- Fear of failure
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Difficulty making decisions